Saturday, September 25, 2010

An Open Letter to T2 Aquatics Parents (Summer 2010 re-issue):

We had a great start to our T2 Aquatics season at the “Friday Night at the Races” Meet last night. Parents, thank you so much for you support.

As a brief introduction to this post: for the last 15 years, I have spent over 5,000 days on deck coaching either at meets or practices. I have a unique perspective on the sport given that fact –and although I do not have children of my own I have seen hundreds of kids and thousands of parents through their swimming careers. I’ve witnessed many lows and quite a few high points. I’d like to share with you some of the things I’ve learned about swimming, expectations, and attitude.

At times I am asked by parents, “How do I handle X situation at a swim meet?” Generally this question is geared toward the idea that the parent would like to help their child who may not be having a great meet or a great experience – or possibly they’ve been DQed in a race or missed their event. Often, when meets are going well for a swimmer – the swimmer is happy; and when meets are not going well a swimmer may tend to become upset. Feeling too far “up and down” is something we’d like to minimize in an athletic environment. We’d like to stay “even keel”.

Here are a few tips we (parents and coaches) can all use as we approach competitive situations. These tips will help us maintain perspective – and stay “even keel”.

#1 – Love is primary. A child needs love and a caring attitude from the adults in his/her life. When in doubt, offer support. “How can I help?” is a great question to ask an upset athlete – it puts you in a position where you are offering love and support, while it simultaneously shields you from having to solve your kid’s issue right there on the spot. The coaches are there to figure out the solution either at that particular meet, or in practice leading into the next meet.

#2 – Laugh. If you are having fun and treating the “Swim Meet” experience with a light heart, so will your kids. It’s kind of the same for the coaches. The athletes will mirror the adults in their life, in particular in times of stress!

I witnessed one of our eight and unders get disqualified last night because she swam the incorrect stroke for the first few strokes. She caught herself, corrected herself, and finished the race. Her dad was in attendance at the meet, and did the perfect thing after the race – he smiled and greeted his daughter with love. Not only will this swimmer continue to learn and love swimming due to this light attitude, but the bond between the child and the parent will strengthen due to the simple act of love and acceptance.

If the child picks up on a sense that their parent is upset after a race (or nervous or overly-concerned going into a race), they will pick up on it – and after a while they will become conscious of it. Nervousness and concern with how your child may do is normal, and it’s inside every parent at times – but the best skill you can have is the ability to relax and be yourself, for the benefit of the long term development of the athlete.

#3 – Exercise wisdom regarding the long term nature of our sport. Many parents who are new to the sport see the sport of swimming through a different lens than I do. I have learned to relax at meets and understand that meets simply won’t go perfectly. When a swimmer doesn’t have a great swim or a great meet, I automatically start thinking about the next swim or the next meet. The learning process is the key -- an athlete’s ability to deal with disappointment and come back stronger through hard work and commitment is a great skill to have in any area of life. Getting through disappointment in a positive way is more important than going a 27.8 in a 50 freestyle.

So, if your child doesn’t have a great meet, use the disappointment they may have as a way to help teach persistence and determination. What a great opportunity for you to show support and teach at the same time! You can bet that our coaching staff at T2 is planning for the next meet with persistence and determination – because we take our jobs seriously, and we want everyone on our team to be wildly successful in the sport of swimming.

#4 – Be cool in times of success. If your child has a great swim or a great meet, it’s ok to say “great job” and feel genuine happiness for him/her. It’s ok to show a little excitement too at times, but your ability to temper your excitement goes a long way when things don’t go perfectly. How do you act when things aren’t going well? That’s the hard part of competition for coaches and parents alike. If you don’t get too “up” while the swimmer is having a successful meet – then you won’t have to “fix everything” when your child has a disappointing meet. Staying cool is a great strategy because there is NO WAY any swimmer will have all good meets, or all terrible meets. In one year of swimming at meets just about every swimmer will have each of these: a great meet, a poor meet, and a so-so meet. Count on it, be ready to handle it – and treat them all the same.

#5 – Understand how meet entries work, and how “things go” at meets. I can’t remember the last time I was at a meet where everyone was entered in their exact best times, in the correct heats, and everybody made it behind the blocks on time – with no issues or problems. Sometimes there are issues we can correct as coaches, but due to the fact that we like to play by the rules there are just some things we cannot correct – and simply have to roll with.

Last night we had a female athlete who had to race with the boys, a 10 year old who was mistakenly put into the Open age group, and we had at least one swimmer miss an event. In each instance I witnessed parents acting out of love, support, and sportsmanship in regards to their athlete – and toward the coaches as well. Thank you for that, as we are doing the best we can to do a great job with your kids, and want the best for them as you do.

#6 – Point out positive behavior, instead of certain times or event places. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard a kid talk to me about their event times, when there are 10 other things that are more important at that stage in their development. When swimmers are simply going for best times, they tend to scramble and try too hard -- and it's that "trying too hard" that really gets them in trouble in the water. Generally kids who really "get after it" in a race function in a counterproductive way -- due to the fact that their "trying" tends to lead to greater water turbulence, and a lot of turbulence leads to drag and slower swimming. Great times will come and go, and are difficult to control (if times were easy to control we’d all do best times every time). So we can’t get into praising times. Praise intent, praise preparation, praise the fact that the swimmer raced and didn’t give up on their swim. Praise breaking through fear. Praise thinking big.

By praising behavior traits instead of concrete results, we are praising things that the child (athlete) can control – and by encouraging them to control positive behavior traits, we encourage them to repeat those traits, and in doing so we can lead them to achieve higher levels of performance, through functionally constructive behavior.

#7 -- Beware of coaching your kids.  When kids are 5-8 years old, there needs to be a little bit of "pushing the kid out of the door"...and this is to be expected. But at some point, the child need to learn how to take responsibility for themselves and parents need to leave the education to the coaches.  The coaches want the athletes to succeed!  As a parent, you should either trust the coaches to do a great job over a period of years of months -- or find a team where you have that trust.

Keep in mind, if a coach notices that a parent is talking with an athlete about their races (discussing technique, discussing splits, etc) -- then the coach is going to BACK OFF talking about the specifics of the race (the coach's job), and instead the coach will make sure the athlete is feeling good about themselves and enjoying the meet (the parent's job).  There is an endless cycle here: the parent notices that the child isn't getting a lot of technical feedback, so they end up giving MORE feedback to the child.

(The coach knows that in any athlete's life, there is only one coach.  If that "Coach" is the parent, the real coach has no chance to succeed -- because, particularly with athletes age 9-12, the athlete will ALWAYS want to please the parent.  I can't tell you how many times I've gone through a race plan with an athlete only to watch the athlete march toward the blocks to hear "Make sure you KICK!" from a parent.  The parent's words should NEVER be the last thing an athlete hears on the way to the blocks; the parent's verbal wish interrupts the athlete's "self-talk" which ideally has been "self-programmed" by the athlete, with help from the coach.  In this case, the coach knows that by 'forcing the kick' the athlete's natural stroke tempo will be interrupted....we may want the athlete to do a certain breathing pattern in which the athlete tends to kick well -- thereby achieving the goal of 'kicking' in a way that actually works for the athlete.  'Trying' to kick, for some athletes, doesn't work as well as breathing every four instead of every stroke -- a technique that will naturally create a better kick within the stroke.)

Parents who tend to "coach their kids" justify their actions somewhat reasonably.  They point to their child's inability to focus ("I have to tell them to get to the blocks every time because they are not paying attention"); or their child's lack of fire ("When I get intense with my child he/she buckles down") -- and they use this justification as a reason why their "coaching" simply has to happen.  My advice: allow your child to fail at times, and watch the coach and athlete work together to improve.  If the athlete needs the parent to light their fire, and they never learn/reason -- and are able to do it themselves --  then the parent is going to have an increasingly intense role with their child as they become a teenager.  This scenario always blows up and is unhealthy for the future relationship between the child and the parent!

As the athletes get older, they'll appreciate a laid-back parent more than they do when they are 9-12 years old -- because soon they'll be looking toward home and the car as a "safe place", where they don't have the pressure of high-level athletics; and likewise they'll be looking to their parents for guidance as they sift through all of the different things teenagers have to deal with, instead of having to answer questions in the car regarding their level of practice focus or competition performance.

Does this feel unnatural to you as a parent?  I can imagine it will feel unnatural to many.  We all love our kids and want the best for them.  If it's hard to do, my advice is: FAKE IT!  Find a spot to view the meet, ask your kids if they achieved their goals if you want, offer some light kudos or encouragement, and send them off to talk with their coach.  It will be tough at first.  It is possible that you will want to scream!  But you will get used to it, and your relationship with your child will be better in the long run because of it.

To Conclude.....It is part of our Mission Statement at T2 Aquatics to offer quality education to parents. I hope this helps you at meets and at home when faced with the task of raising your kids in a competitive swimming environment. Thanks again for your support, and for showing that support to your children last night at our first meet of the year -- it was a great success!

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Another Level

What must an athlete do to “Take it to Another Level” ?

I often find myself in conversation discussing this subject. It’s discussed in the office, on the pool deck, over the phone with friends, coaches, parents – and on the deck with swimmers. It’s occurred to me that different people have their own ideas of what “Another Level” actually is, and differing opinions regarding how we go about getting there.

I have a problem accepting the idea that “Another Level” is an actual place or circumstance. To me, “Another Level” can happen anywhere, based on an individual’s mind-state – particularly in regards to swimming training and performance.

I’ve heard collegiate swimming referred to as “The Next Level”, in comparison to USS club swimming. Also, I’ve heard club swimming referred to as “The Next Level” when compared to High School swimming. I understand the idea behind these statements, but consider them to be large generalizations – generalizations which are believed by athletes, and in my opinion do them an injustice. “The Next Level” is not a fixed state, circumstance, or place – is a readily accessible mind-state, to which we have constant and ever-expanding access.

The “Next Level” is whatever we make it. The “Next Level” is OUR CREATION. Without interaction with the “Next Level” – and I mean exciting, personal interaction – the “Next Level” only exists as a fictional place in a fictional time.

We are at the Next Level as soon as we wake up and create it in the pool, on the track, on the deck, or in the office each day. As soon as we raise our standards, we are THERE – looking the next level directly in the eye. Once we are seeing that next level in daily training, we must begin to search for the next NEXT LEVEL. There is always another level!

The next level is not found as you move from High School swimming to Club swimming, although the amount of practice time may increase and your coaching may change. Similarly, the next level is not reached because you take yourself from a Club swimming situation (as a High School Student) to a Collegiate swimming situation (as a College Student). The next level is reached by changing your mind – changing the way you think, changing your standards of what it means to be successful, changing your ability to think bigger than your currently are, changing your sense of creativity and what you consider possible, changing your resolve to experience physical discomfort, changing your determination to put off overloading social ‘responsibilities’, changing your ability to not only ignore – but dismiss detractors of your goal from your mind.

It takes practice and confidence to feel this way, and create your next level. You have think about it a little bit, and decide that you are the creator of your life.

Out-training and out-working your “Old Self” is one way to create your “New Self” – and once you do it, THAT’S the next level.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010


Training with Imagination

To train well takes imagination. Simply showing up to practice and “working hard” does not accomplish preparation for high level performances in meets. Why? The answer is simple: there are MANY people in the world of athletics who show up to practice and “work hard”; most of them feel as if they ‘deserve’ to go fast in meets or athletic competitions of any sort. This type of thinking will get you fast at first (as an age grouper or young athlete)….but there comes a point in time where the hard work you put in is just the same old hard work you’ve BEEN putting in for years. The body and mind adapt to this work. You get into a rhythm. You perform about the same, maybe a second or so slower or faster per 100 meters…but more or less the same performances happen because the same work happens.

Yet, in today’s world, for a myriad of reasons that all have to do with easy answers and instant gratification – we feel like we should access some superior results just because we’ve “sacrificed” and gone to practice….or “sacrificed” to wake up early before school….or “sacrificed” by getting our heart rate up during some repeat 100s in practice. This attitude is a disease that will attack us our entire lives, unless we stop it.

What is sacrifice? Is sacrifice REALLY giving up some sleep? Are we sacrificing when we choose to come home at 11pm instead of staying out until 2? Are we sacrificing when we expand our practice schedule from one season to another? Are we sacrificing when we sweat more at practice, and go faster than our best times in practice? These things are not what I consider sacrifice. These things are called TRAINING.

I believe 90% of teams out there have trouble with the concept of “How to Train”. I believe this because my standards are high, and I don’t feel like it’s a tremendous accomplishment to go to Nationals with three people just like I don’t feel like it’s a tremendous accomplishment to stay in the same job, without promotion, your entire life.

I was extremely lucky to have the opportunity to apprentice with Coach Bob Bowman in 2001-2002, during the time Michael Phelps was developing into the most accomplished swimmer the world has ever seen. Routinely during that season I would watch Michael swim under National Time Standards (cuts for Nationals) in practice. Once Michael started doing these things, others followed. During that year I watched no less than a half dozen OTHER SWIMMERS (not Michael) swim under the National Cuts in practice. Would those other swimmers have accomplished those practice swims without Michael having done it first? Probably, but not in WAVES like it happened that year. Soon, there were 10+ Olympic Trials qualifiers in the group, up from 1 two years prior to that time.

Since that time, I have been fortunate to coach athletes who have thought big enough to shoot for huge goals in practice. Some of these thoughts were implanted by me as the coach, and some of those thoughts came directly from the athletes each day in practice. At T2, we are beginning to think in this way, but we are not there yet. And if we are simply focused on being the best swimmer in the practice group, or the best High School swimmer in the county, then we are stunting our growth in a serious way. If you want to be the athlete who takes our team to the next level – than you have to take our team to the next level in practice. You can’t just swim a little bit ahead of the next guy and pat yourself on the back because of it.

You have to redefine “what is fast” in practice every day. If you go your best times in practice you will go to the meets with the unbelievable confidence that you’ve basically already made it happen, you just have to do what you’ve done before again in a meet. If you want to get a National cut, or a Junior National cut, or a Sectional cut you can either wait for the meets we have once per month to test yourself out, or you can simply go for it every day. Why not? The only reason why we don’t do this type of thing is because we lack the IMAGINATION to make it happen. Not many people consider actually going their cuts in practice. You have to think it’s possible (because it is and it happens ALL THE TIME) – and then you have to intend to make it happen. You are already taking the time to train, you might as well make your training unbelievable – ridiculously good – while you’re at it.

You really only have one choice if you want to be more successful than you currently are. Raising your level of expectation within yourself and for yourself -- and using your imagination for the ENTIRE practice, EVERY practice -- is going to be the key for you to take your swimming to the next level.

You are in charge of this. It won’t be me, your parents, or your teachers at school. It’s all in YOUR MIND and YOUR IMAGINATION.